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Most Viewed Stories. And a few participants nominated Sheldon as having a lot of personality, which suggests the classification is, in part, in the eye of the beholder. But when it came to the descriptions of regular people with lots of and little personality, the division became clear: No personality bad; lots of personality good. About a third of people said it meant people who were not unique or memorable, or who had no strong views or preferences. In short, distinguishing this person from all the other people on Earth was hard.

Read: Can personality be changed? A lot of personality, meanwhile, generally meant people who are sociable, energetic, and emotionally expressive. It can take more than hours over a period of 3 months for a friendship to develop. Just focus on spending time with the person you want to get to know, and use the tips above to help make that time count.

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Ask genuine questions. Focus on questions that further a conversation. Avoid rapid-fire questions. Accept the awkwardness. Actively listen to their answers. Pay attention to how they respond. Stay present. Be honest. Talk about yourself. Keep compliments minimal — and genuine. Avoid giving advice. Avoid texting or messaging too much. Put effort into making plans. Practice vulnerability. Give it time.